Shin doesn't feel right... contemplated running to work but biked instead - 27 freaking degrees outside, so cold! I'm going to a spin class after work, but felt like blogging about other stuff.
It's sort-of a sad day. A young guy friend of mine decided that after only 1 year of marriage, it's not working for him. Very sad. He's such a great guy and his wife is wonderful. They had what in my mind was the perfect American dream: both very young, good looking, educated, successful, they just bought a house together... so disappointing. Since I can't keep my mouth shut and I kept seeing him walk around the office teary-eyed, I asked if he wanted to take a walk and chat a bit. He knows I was married before, so I can offer my "what not to do" advice. We talked a while ago and one of the first things I said is "go to a counselor NOW" - cause I wish I had when me and my ex starting having trouble, instead of waiting for a long time. So they started going, but it seems that he's made up his mind and wants out. My thoughts: on one hand, if you already know you want out, get out now before it's too late and there are kids on the way, and you are both still young and re-building your lives won't be so hard. On the other hand, are you just bored with yourself and need to do something to keep you occupied, or is this about her particularly? Is this going to happen with every girl you meet and like, after the chase is over and you're set in a routine, you'll want to get out? Who knows... he seems to think it's the first. I hope they both figure things out and are happy in the long-run.
Continuing on relationship news, one of my best friends and co-worker is thinking of getting back with the girl he dated for a year. I guess that's good news, although he is really scared because she really hurt him and was very pushy about moving the relationship forward, but they are taking the right steps to healing, doing counseling both individually and as a couple, and may be very happy together in the future. He is one of my favorite people in this world, like an older brother to me, and I really, really want to see him happy.
Last but not least - I'm rehearsing the words in my head that I need to say tonight to possibly the nicest guy that has ever pursued me... this guy went above and beyond trying to get me to go out with him with flowers, teddy bears, books, running, hiking, biking, picnics, dinners, movies, and everything a guy can do right in a "courtship" to get the girl... He was so nice to me during my accident and all... but what's tough for me is figuring out if I like HIM or if I like the way he makes ME feel with all that. And I realized it's the second, and that's not enough for a relationship to develop further. I know it isn't really a big deal, but he seems like a very sensitive guy and I hate being the bearer of bad news... I'm sure he'll find a girl that appreciates him, someone smarter than me. Or maybe I'm just too closed-off and guarded to be in a relationship right now? I'd like to think I'm not - and he was just not the right guy for me.
Sorry, this was more of a diary entry than anything. But I figured it may be a nice distraction for all of you married people out there. I'd love to hear your thoughts!
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Ran from the office to the gym, 1 mile, did a 1-hour spin class, and ran 1 mile to the metro stop. Right shin bothers me a little... grrrrrrrrrrrr....
I made the nicest 36-year old man I know cry on the phone this evening. I'm going straight to hell. |