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Location:

Washington,DC,USA

Member Since:

May 01, 2008

Gender:

Female

Goal Type:

Boston Qualifier

Running Accomplishments:

One marathon: 4:08; Half marathon PR: 1:48:30; Ten-miler PR: 1:23; 8k PR: 39:00; 10k PR: 46:51

 

Short-Term Running Goals:

Lose 10 lbs. to get in shape to run faster and --> Qualify for Boston!

Race calendar:

May 18: Capitol Hill Classic 10k (50:23)

June 14: Lawyers Have Heart 10k (48:20)

July 12: Caribbean Sounds 10k (50:23)

July 14: Bastille Day 4-miler (30:55)

July 27: Riley's Rumble 1/2 Marathon (1:48:30)

(Stress fracture/broken jaw break)

Nov 9: Veteran's day 10k (46:51!!!)

Nov 27: Alexandria Turkey Trot 5-miler

Dec 6: Gar Williams 1/2 marathon

Dec 14: Jingle All the way 10k

February 14, 2009: Myrtle Beach marathon? (goal: 3:40!!!)

Long-Term Running Goals:

Finish a 1/2 Ironman before I'm 40 years old

Finish 10 marathons in 4:00 hrs or less by the time I'm 40 years old.

Run the JFK 50-miler

Personal:

Just another single 30-year old Argentine girl living the American dream in Washington DC and trying to run faster. Graduated from Southern Utah University in 2003, then moved to DC. I have a full-time job as research economist for an association in the transportation industry and I'm attempting to get my Master's degree in Economics from Johns Hopkins, part-time, while keeping my sanity!

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Shin doesn't feel right... contemplated running to work but biked instead - 27 freaking degrees outside, so cold! I'm going to a spin class after work, but felt like blogging about other stuff.

It's sort-of a sad day. A young guy friend of mine decided that after only 1 year of marriage, it's not working for him. Very sad. He's such a great guy and his wife is wonderful. They had what in my mind was the perfect American dream: both very young, good looking, educated, successful, they just bought a house together... so disappointing. Since I can't keep my mouth shut and I kept seeing him walk around the office teary-eyed, I asked if he wanted to take a walk and chat a bit. He knows I was married before, so I can offer my "what not to do" advice. We talked a while ago and one of the first things I said is "go to a counselor NOW" - cause I wish I had when me and my ex starting having trouble, instead of waiting for a long time. So they started going, but it seems that he's made up his mind and wants out. My thoughts: on one hand, if you already know you want out, get out now before it's too late and there are kids on the way, and you are both still young and re-building your lives won't be so hard. On the other hand, are you just bored with yourself and need to do something to keep you occupied, or is this about her particularly? Is this going to happen with every girl you meet and like, after the chase is over and you're set in a routine, you'll want to get out? Who knows... he seems to think it's the first. I hope they both figure things out and are happy in the long-run.

Continuing on relationship news, one of my best friends and co-worker is thinking of getting back with the girl he dated for a year. I guess that's good news, although he is really scared because she really hurt him and was very pushy about moving the relationship forward, but they are taking the right steps to healing, doing counseling both individually and as a couple, and may be very happy together in the future. He is one of my favorite people in this world, like an older brother to me, and I really, really want to see him happy.

Last but not least - I'm rehearsing the words in my head that I need to say tonight to possibly the nicest guy that has ever pursued me... this guy went above and beyond trying to get me to go out with him with flowers, teddy bears, books, running, hiking, biking, picnics, dinners, movies, and everything a guy can do right in a "courtship" to get the girl... He was so nice to me during my accident and all... but what's tough for me is figuring out if I like HIM or if I like the way he makes ME feel with all that. And I realized it's the second, and that's not enough for a relationship to develop further. I know it isn't really a big deal, but he seems like a very sensitive guy and I hate being the bearer of bad news... I'm sure he'll find a girl that appreciates him, someone smarter than me. Or maybe I'm just too closed-off and guarded to be in a relationship right now? I'd like to think I'm not - and he was just not the right guy for me.

Sorry, this was more of a diary entry than anything. But I figured it may be a nice distraction for all of you married people out there. I'd love to hear your thoughts!

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Ran from the office to the gym, 1 mile, did a 1-hour spin class, and ran 1 mile to the metro stop. Right shin bothers me a little... grrrrrrrrrrrr....

I made the nicest 36-year old man I know cry on the phone this evening. I'm going straight to hell.

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Comments
From leslie on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 at 13:22:22

Thank you for sharing, you are so thoughtful, you definitely have your head on straight. I thought that was an interesting comment on how - after the chase and things settle down do you have what it takes to stay in a marriage and put up with the daily routine of life. Interesting, I have 2 sons that both were married for a short time, that could have been a part of the problem. What I was impressed with most was your comment about do I really like HIM or the attention he is giving me. I am still a newly wed, I think I lucked out the second time, but I wasn't as thoughtful as you, you are a smart girl and I am sure you will never settle for anything less than you deserve, THE BEST! You are right it was a very enjoyable entry for us old married folks. It gives us a something different to think about. I am sorry for your friends, they are lucky to have you in their lives. Keep us posted, so was this the fellow taking you to the Legwarmers Concert? He will be sad, sounds like he is head over hills for you, that will be a very tough job, good luck!!

From Metcalf Running on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 at 14:00:42

Funny to read your entry, I just got told by a friend today that she has filed for divorce, they divorced once... then got back together... now 10 years later are divorcing again.

I think some people always wonder if the grass is greener else where, you know what I mean. Or if there has been trouble, they can never get over the issues and more on. I was talking to her and she said, things will never change. She explained that she has always felt that she needed to change for him to love her. She can no longer be anything else but herself and really isn't that the best you can do, is hope to find someone that loves you just for you.

From Lucia on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 at 14:11:02

Leslie, the concert is a girl's night so he wasn't even aware, so at least that's not a big deal. I've also been on the other side (with someone that seemed just perfect for me and he didn't want to be with me) and know how painful it can be. He'll be ok. It's always nice to hear of a nice love story like yours. I hope your sons are also on the mend.

Lori, so sad about your friend! My ex and I did that dance for several years (separating and getting back together). It is so tough to really know when you should keep trying harder and when it's time to give up!

From marion on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 at 14:53:54

If you don't "like" him, cut him loose. There are those guys who do everything right, but there is no magic. You've got to be HOT for him ;) My head hurts and I cant think- Have fun and hang in there! xoxoxoxo

From Kelli on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 at 15:18:11

WOW!!! That is some serious stuff. It is so sad to see marriages dissolve, but worse to see them continue on too long and too unhappy! I think there is a lot to be said for trying everything before quitting, but sometimes it just does not work. It is a sad, sad fact. But, at least there are not kids involved, that makes it messy and hard and even sadder.

Good luck tonight. I do not envy the task ahead, that will be rough. BUT, I am sure you will be as sweet as ever and, in the long run, it is for the best.

What a bummer of a day for you. You need to SPIN like crazy and get all of the sadness out!

From kungfublonde on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 at 15:18:29

I'm sorry you are in such a crummy position with that guy. It's so hard to hurt someone that way. Just remember the very best thing you can do it be honest with him and not lead him on. As much as he doesn't want to hear you turn him down, he will absolutely appreciate you letting him know you don't feel the same way about him.

As for your friend who wants the divorce, that's even tougher. I obviously know nothing about this guy or his marriage. But assuming he got married for all the right reasons, here is my advice (for what it's worth). Even though the marriage is only a year old, it still deserves all they've got. They fell in love once. Why? I say take a little time apart and then they should date again. Go back to the time when they decided they wanted to spend the rest of their lives together. Sometimes young people freak out after marriage because it hits them that this is THE REST OF THEIR LIVES. If he can get out of that mindset (assuming he's in it), and get back to what made him fall in love with her to begin with, he might feel like they can have the future together he once so strongly believed in.

Also, it would be good for them to spend time with other happily married couples. When a married person spends a lot of time with single people, they start to see all they don't have (freedom, mostly), and lose sight of all they DO have. But when they are around other couples who are happy together, it can help them focus more on how great their relationship really is. Also, spending time with couples who have been together a long time and are happy can help younger couples see what they can have. That amazing relationship that builds over time.

If his marriage really is over so quickly, maybe he didn't really want it to begin with? Maybe he got married for the wrong reasons (which can be an honest mistake, I'm not trying to insult him). I hope that he and his wife can work things out in a way that is best for both of them. He is young and he can recover from this and move on like you said. And if that happens, I just hope it can be with the knowledge that he truly gave it all he had.

Um... so yeah. That's what I think :) I hope I didn't make you regret posting that diary entry!

From Lucia on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 at 15:40:10

Rachel you are DEAD ON here. He is totally blinded by the "rest of our lives" "I want my freedom" mindset, and forgetting all the good things. I asked him that question, why did you get married, what made you fall inlove, what did she have that other girls don't, etc. And your suggestion of spending time with other couples is also a great one, they're so young, not many of their friends are married. We have a lot of great, happily married guys here in the office that he can talk to - but you know how guys can be, very reserved and macho-like and not wanting to talk about their feelings... sad!

Marion, you're right... I'm definitely not there after all this time, so I have to let him go. Sigh... he is really a great guy.

Thanks Kelli, I will!

From artichoke on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 at 23:19:24

What part of Argentina are your from? My son lives in Formosa, way up north.

From Lucia on Wed, Nov 19, 2008 at 23:40:56

How does your son like it up there, Artichoke?

I'm from Buenos Aires but lived in Salta growing up - that's West of Formosa.

From montelepsy on Thu, Nov 20, 2008 at 09:55:10

I only like movies with happy endings. I don't have the emotional fortitude to deal with all this sadness.

Poor guy and poor you and poor me.

From kungfublonde on Thu, Nov 20, 2008 at 10:49:40

You aren't going to hell for being honest. All the girls who lead guys on though...

From artichoke on Thu, Nov 20, 2008 at 22:52:20

He loves Argentina, but said it's very muddy in Formosa whenever it rains. Pero por la mayor parte le gusta muchisimo!

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